Dogs, Lullabies, Fartzilla and The Crimson Panda : Episode 3

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This is the Great Hair and Day Care Podcast.

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With a combined age of 111 years and a combined IQ range.

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Your hosts, Frank Cereo and Carlo Russo.

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Episode three.

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It's very exciting.

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So welcome back.

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If you are joining us for the first or second or third time, could be the third time.

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I am Frank Cereo.

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I am 55 years old.

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My wife is now 20 weeks pregnant and I'm here with my friend, Carlo Russo.

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Hello everyone.

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And what we're hoping most out of this podcast is that everything works.

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We've been trying to record video and audio.

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Sometimes we get the audio and no video.

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Sometimes we just get me.

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Sometimes it's just Carlo.

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That's all right.

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Sometimes it's no, it's all crappy audio.

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It's a funny thing is Frank, if somebody walked in here, they would think we know what we're doing.

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I mean, we have lights.

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We have three cameras.

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This is how I make it.

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We have three cameras.

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And at this point we have no video at all.

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Three cameras running the whole time.

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We've had no lights.

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We've got audio.

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We've got everything set up.

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I bought a special stand.

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Hopefully I can slide this out.

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So we look good.

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Let's hope.

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Sound, I don't know.

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We don't know what's going to happen.

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We look great.

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No one will ever see it.

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Yeah, that's basically where we are.

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So, uh, anyway, we welcome back.

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So I wanted to, I'm going to add going forward.

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One of the things that there, there's all these cute apps that tell you in each week, what's going on with your baby.

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Okay.

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All right.

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So in week 20, the baby is the size of a banana.

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I love bananas.

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The baby can swallow their digestives.

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And this is the most, the most interesting thing for me, the digestive system in the baby is now producing meconium.

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Meconium, right?

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Isn't that what kills Superman?

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That's kryptonite.

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Oh, sorry.

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Basically what it means is she's working at the, she, or he is working on his first poop.

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So now that word, I know it could happen in there.

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It could happen on the way out or it could happen in the diaper the first time.

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So wait a minute, wait a minute, let's back it up.

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It's working on poop.

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There's no guarantee when it could come out after they have arrived in the world.

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They just hold onto it.

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I guess.

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I don't know how it works.

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I just know it's meconium.

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That's what it said.

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And it could happen in the womb on the way out or in a diaper after they're settled in and going to college.

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I don't know.

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So that that's where we are in week 20.

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So as you know, we kind of, we're trying to play catch up.

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We want this to be kind of live and we got through week nine last week.

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So we're going to pick up on week 10.

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So the notable stuff week 10 up to this point, I think probably around week six, maybe even seven.

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Kelly started with, it's a boy.

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I just know it's a boy.

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And I'm like, how do you like, how do you know this first time woman pregnant?

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I can feel it's a boy.

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It's a boy in my family.

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All the old Italian ladies were like really good.

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My grandmother told my mother she was pregnant with me before my mother knew.

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She's like, you're pregnant.

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She's like, you're crazy.

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I remember.

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Do you remember the whole thing about she's carrying it high or low?

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It's a boy low.

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It's a high.

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Remember that?

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Which is all bull.

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I mean, it's all gas.

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It's a 50, 50 shot.

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And I think what it was is she read somewhere that if you have food aversions, it's tip more typically a bull.

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And she had, she was having lots of that stuff.

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So she's thinking for the last few weeks up till now coming into week 10, she's thinking it's a boy.

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And there is this testing.

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So you're not, you don't really find out until week 20, right?

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So week 20 is the, is the gender reveal?

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What kind of?

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Cause that's what, if they, if you want to know that's when they're going to do an ultrasound and be able to see parts and pieces.

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So we're not, we're not.

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And at that, so you can find out then, but there's also this testing.

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So it's non-invasive prenatal testing.

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So basically what it means is that it's a blood test that they can do and it looks for chromosomal abnormality.

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So the first time Kelly comes up with this pamphlet about it and I'm like, well, like who cares?

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Like, why would we do this?

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Well, you know, it looks at stuff.

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I'm like, is there, if we find out there is something, we're not going to do anything about it, right?

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Like we're not going to make a decision like that.

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So why do it?

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And well, it does tell the gender.

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And I'm like, do you want to know?

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And she's well, I don't, I guess I doesn't matter.

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You know, for planning it might be, I'm like, look, I don't care.

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We can do it either.

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Like a week later.

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She's like, well, you know, there's that test.

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So, uh, okay.

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Clearly she wants to do it.

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And honestly, I don't know if it was more for the screening to know another green light, like, okay, everything's good.

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Or just to find out the gender.

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So, but all it is really is, is a blood test.

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So they, they, they do a blood draw like they're doing all the time.

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And then we basically, we do that test in week 10 and it takes a week or so.

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So we're, we're waiting from then.

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So that's kind of the, the appointment that week they take the blood and we'll, we'll find out soon.

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Okay.

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And then we'd had the scare in week nine.

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She's coming home from work.

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She stops at Wegmans and, and says, or no, we were going, we were going to Wegmans.

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I think we were together, which is a grocery store for somebody.

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If you're not aware, it's a wonderful grocery store.

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And she's like, I got it.

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I have to use the restroom.

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As soon as we get in, she's like, we need to go home.

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She had another bleed.

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Okay.

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Now this time, not as bad, but still another scare.

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We're like, what's going on?

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Because again, if you recall from the last episode, I was so happy that everything was okay.

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Never asked questions.

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So I don't know.

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Tell me anything else.

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I'm getting pancakes.

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So there was, there was no, we didn't know.

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We had no idea.

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So now again, it's like, okay, so this time I'm handling it a little bit better, but still very scary.

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She goes in for a regular appointment.

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They check her out.

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Everything's okay.

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And what they say is, well, what this looks like is something called a sub chorionic hematoma.

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All right.

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So, okay.

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What's fancy?

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So Google it up.

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It is when blood pools between the uterine wall and the chorionic membrane.

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I don't know what that is.

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We're not doctors.

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There's a blood pools.

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And then this, this can sometimes happen.

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Common in the first trimester to cause vaginal bleeding.

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But up until the first one, she had had no bleeding.

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That was another thing that I didn't know.

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And if we get far enough, we'll talk about it later.

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I just assume once the, once her normal menstrual cycle stops, all that's over with, but apparently some women have their cycles through their pregnancy and all that.

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So, and I should know all these things, but yeah, I can't imagine.

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I would, I should know this stuff, but all the books that I've been given by my lovely wife are about introducing like four books on introducing the dogs to the baby.

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So I haven't gotten to the one that tells you about the child.

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I'm still working on how do they have the dog not eat the kid when they get home.

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So there there's that it's common.

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But so the whole thing with the cycle in my head, save this up for later.

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I just think that's all over until she has the baby.

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So we'll come back to that.

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That's kind of week 10.

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We go into week 11 and now it's like a handoff from the specialist that we were working with to the OBGYN that will handle this through, through the delivery delivery.

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So the first thing we find out is the blood test to find us.

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We're thinking that now I'm thinking we're going to find out.

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And I'm thinking because Kelly keeps saying, she thinks it's a boy.

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I'm like, okay, like I would be excited.

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I'm a happy either way, but thinking, okay, we're going to find out.

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Well, what they do is they're you, they're looking at blood.

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They look at her blood for DNA from the baby, right?

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So there wasn't enough fetal DNA in the, in her blood sample for them to have a conclusion.

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Exactly.

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So we don't know.

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So, so we basically have to do, if we want to, we have to do that again.

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This is week 11.

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We're in week 11.

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Yes.

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Otherwise we go in, they, they do the, you know, the normal doctor stuff and they, they set her down and they do a, another ultrasound.

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But then we go in and we meet the PA.

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I don't think it's a, an OBGYN, but they're literally, they, they're talking so fast.

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It starts, it's over.

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I don't even know what happened.

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Like, is everything good?

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And I usually, I'm trying to pass out.

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Like I'm looking at Twitter, I'm trying to pay attention.

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And I'm still like, they talked to, I asked Kelly afterwards, did you like, is this because of reading you've done that you understood everything she was saying?

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It was like, boom, boom.

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I'm so, I'm everything's good.

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I'm, I'm happy.

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That's it.

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So they take, they take the blood again to do the noninvasive test again.

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So, and that's pretty much it in week 11, slide into week 12.

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And this is when, this is something that I should have, I should have brought up last week, but I think is important to understand about my wife.

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I love my wife.

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She's a brilliant woman.

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Kelly is very brilliant.

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She is.

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She is also has a very narrow band of acceptable temperatures, except she, she is, I have, I have for years now called her, I tease her that she is the princess in the peak.

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Like she knows if it's 72 degrees, she's happy.

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If it is 71, she is in a parka and starting a fire from our furniture.

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If she, if it is 73, she is sweltering and we have to turn everything off.

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Very narrow.

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So when these things start happening with morning sickness and things like that, this is very like, this is unacceptable.

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That's a big thing for her.

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Yeah, it is.

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Absolutely.

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It is a, it is a big thing.

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So she starts really in earnest now with some basically like acid reflux, little things, even her, like her tea in the morning, like she drinks tea in the morning and she's the kind of person that to a normal day for her, like she would have tea in the morning and then not eat anything until like 11 o'clock.

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She's not up, not eating, not used to eating breakfast or even three regular meals.

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Like she's not a big eater.

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She looks at food to survive.

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She looks like a normal person where we look at it.

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Oh, that's a state.

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That's a one that I need.

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And now you love me and I'm safe.

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It is not.

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Yeah, absolutely.

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She is the opposite of an emotional eating.

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She is the opposite of that.

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So she starts with that.

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And then now it's like, I'm trying to just find something she can eat.

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I'm like, okay, what are we going to have?

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And just trying to find something that she, that doesn't make her miserable after she eats it.

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But still I'm starting, I'm getting a little worried that she doesn't look like she's pregnant at all at this point.

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And like, is she getting enough nutrition for her and the baby?

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So I'm trying, I'm trying to be creative and suggest things and some stuff's working and some stuff's not.

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We go back now and they do in week 12, they do an early anatomy scan.

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So this is like the version of the 20 week where they look at what they can see at that point.

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So they go in and this time, because they go through and they're doing a more detailed scan, they figure out, yes, this was a subchorionic hematoma.

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They found it on this scan.

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So now we know what happened.

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They can securely say that's what it was.

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Yes.

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So that kind of closes the, that chapter.

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We can worry a little bit less and it's just, okay, that's what they say.

242
00:13:15,460 --> 00:13:20,080
It could repeat itself or once they did it twice now.

243
00:13:20,140 --> 00:13:20,280
Yeah.

244
00:13:20,320 --> 00:13:33,220
But now we're kind of at the end of the first trimester, so it shouldn't, it shouldn't continue, but at least the, cause the first two times they kept saying, we think it's this, but they weren't seeing whatever they saw in this scan.

245
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So we got that feedback, a little breathe, a sigh, another sigh of relief, but now it's week 12 and we can start to make announcements so we can start, we can start telling people.

246
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So you already know, my siblings, when they had come to visit shortly before this in the summer, you know, they, my sisters and my brother knew it was a small circle.

247
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It was a very small circle.

248
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So at that point, Kelly had not talked to her mom or dad.

249
00:14:04,260 --> 00:14:07,200
So she's like, well, you know, I'm like, well, when do you want to do it?

250
00:14:07,220 --> 00:14:08,340
She's like, well, we can call them now.

251
00:14:08,900 --> 00:14:15,860
So she calls and it was interesting for me because I'm thinking I would, nice.

252
00:14:15,960 --> 00:14:17,060
It would be to call my mom.

253
00:14:17,180 --> 00:14:21,960
How, what it would be like for her, how she would react.

254
00:14:22,280 --> 00:14:24,860
My father, less effusive.

255
00:14:26,360 --> 00:14:30,400
It would probably be something like that, but I'm thinking what that would be like.

256
00:14:30,400 --> 00:14:47,020
And she calls, she, and a lot of times because her mother is busy and her father, sometimes they're tough to get ahold of, but phone rings and mother answers and she asks if her father's there and gets them both on the phone and she tells them.

257
00:14:47,300 --> 00:14:53,660
And the reaction was if I called my parents and said, I got a new coffee table, right?

258
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That's, that was, and I don't know if caught them at a bad time or if they were distracted or anything, but number one, I'm, I'm just surprised that the level of enthusiasm, but there, there are times when I see things with, with Kelly's family.

259
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I wait for a reaction, how I would react and it just goes right over her.

260
00:15:19,160 --> 00:15:20,700
So it's a different family.

261
00:15:20,780 --> 00:15:22,500
Every, all families have different dynamics.

262
00:15:22,940 --> 00:15:26,160
The first thing I'm nothing.

263
00:15:26,740 --> 00:15:34,900
I just like we go through it and she doesn't seem to be impacted by it at all.

264
00:15:35,040 --> 00:15:38,940
She's used to their, yeah, she's used to how, how that is.

265
00:15:38,960 --> 00:15:40,980
And I'm like, okay, like that's.

266
00:15:41,040 --> 00:15:45,380
It's more on you than on them because that's how they grew up probably, right?

267
00:15:45,540 --> 00:15:47,840
That reaction is normal.

268
00:15:48,120 --> 00:15:52,800
Their family is very much, they wouldn't yell if they were on fire, right?

269
00:15:52,840 --> 00:15:55,180
Like that's just not, that's not how they operate.

270
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And we just yell.

271
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Right.

272
00:15:57,700 --> 00:15:58,480
So, yeah.

273
00:15:58,480 --> 00:16:10,580
So there's a huge disconnect when they, if I get at all agitated or energetic and how I'm talking about something, they're like, they need a safe room, right?

274
00:16:10,600 --> 00:16:12,280
Like it's very different.

275
00:16:12,340 --> 00:16:14,640
So she gets that reaction, but so, but you know, nice.

276
00:16:14,660 --> 00:16:16,340
And then we're, you know, we're making all the other calls.

277
00:16:16,420 --> 00:16:18,200
That was the, the, the big important call.

278
00:16:18,200 --> 00:16:28,440
Then we're talking to, she calls her brother and his wife and, and, and some cousins and they're going, you know, kind of making, making the tour and telling everybody.

279
00:16:28,440 --> 00:16:29,020
And it's fun.

280
00:16:29,120 --> 00:16:42,580
You know, there's different, you know, my, my, my cousin, Mark, who lives in Ohio, I, you know, I, I sent a text to that group of cousins, him and his siblings, and I immediately get a call and there's like cheering and all kinds of excitement.

281
00:16:42,580 --> 00:16:43,800
So it was, it was nice.

282
00:16:44,480 --> 00:16:46,620
And that, that was always a fun.

283
00:16:46,620 --> 00:16:47,020
Yeah.

284
00:16:47,360 --> 00:16:51,540
Do you remember like what, how did your, how did your parents react when.

285
00:16:51,940 --> 00:16:53,220
I remember calling my mom.

286
00:16:53,560 --> 00:16:57,580
She just absolutely started crying with joy.

287
00:16:57,660 --> 00:17:03,640
Obviously my mom already had her grand kids from my older brother.

288
00:17:03,700 --> 00:17:06,099
So she had two at the time before our one.

289
00:17:06,180 --> 00:17:15,180
So she was very excited for a new, another son, not the same to have a child.

290
00:17:15,220 --> 00:17:16,660
My father was very excited.

291
00:17:17,240 --> 00:17:20,859
I remember, and I'm going to throw this out and we'll probably talk about this with names and all that.

292
00:17:20,900 --> 00:17:29,480
But I remember telling my father that we had, we were pregnant within like minutes.

293
00:17:29,540 --> 00:17:30,680
He goes, don't name him.

294
00:17:30,800 --> 00:17:31,940
Don't name him after me.

295
00:17:32,020 --> 00:17:33,420
It's, I don't like my name.

296
00:17:33,840 --> 00:17:35,600
You shouldn't have an old name like me.

297
00:17:35,980 --> 00:17:42,480
I'm like, well, first thing, assuming that I'm going to name him after you, it's pretty ballsy, which I did anyways.

298
00:17:43,140 --> 00:17:44,000
I did anyways.

299
00:17:44,260 --> 00:17:46,640
And so, yeah, they were very excited.

300
00:17:46,840 --> 00:17:50,540
And again, it's, it's one of the best phone calls you can make.

301
00:17:51,200 --> 00:17:53,380
It's the engagement, right.

302
00:17:53,420 --> 00:17:57,140
The engagement phone call, we're engaged and you know, photos and all that.

303
00:17:57,200 --> 00:18:01,100
And then obviously the baby is like, yeah, that's so big.

304
00:18:01,340 --> 00:18:02,340
Yeah, that's big.

305
00:18:02,600 --> 00:18:02,700
Yeah.

306
00:18:02,920 --> 00:18:16,420
So at this point, we make the announcements or just in normal, you know, try I'm, I'm still trying to figure out what to feed her to keep her together to keep her eating.

307
00:18:17,120 --> 00:18:30,560
And she starts trying because I think they tell her at the doctor's appointment that that weekend or that week, they tell her, use Pepsod, you know, try Pepsod.

308
00:18:30,620 --> 00:18:35,260
That'll help, you know, try a wedge pillow, which she hadn't tried that.

309
00:18:35,380 --> 00:18:36,700
And this is common, the heartburn and stuff.

310
00:18:37,160 --> 00:18:38,360
A lot of pregnancies.

311
00:18:38,580 --> 00:18:39,600
I think it is pretty common.

312
00:18:39,840 --> 00:18:40,100
Absolutely.

313
00:18:40,420 --> 00:18:43,300
So she starts with the Pepsod.

314
00:18:43,780 --> 00:18:45,680
I guess it's not helping.

315
00:18:46,220 --> 00:18:48,000
And we're in the drive.

316
00:18:48,180 --> 00:18:49,140
We're in the drive through.

317
00:18:49,220 --> 00:18:50,300
I'm like, what do you want to get for dinner?

318
00:18:50,900 --> 00:18:53,700
And she's like, well, we get, we're going to get KFC.

319
00:18:53,940 --> 00:18:55,160
She's like, KFC sounds good to you.

320
00:18:55,540 --> 00:18:56,340
Let's go get KFC.

321
00:18:56,920 --> 00:18:58,440
We're in the drive through KFC.

322
00:18:58,640 --> 00:19:02,060
And she's like, I just wish, you know, the acid reflux, I really don't like it.

323
00:19:02,940 --> 00:19:04,920
And I went, well, what about the Pepsod?

324
00:19:05,040 --> 00:19:06,260
And the Pepsod doesn't work.

325
00:19:07,400 --> 00:19:10,220
And I'm like, well, they just told you to try it.

326
00:19:10,420 --> 00:19:16,620
Like, well, I, I, I took it on, I took it on Thursday and it didn't do anything.

327
00:19:16,680 --> 00:19:18,400
I'm like, well, how many are you supposed to take a day?

328
00:19:19,040 --> 00:19:20,300
Well, you take it twice a day.

329
00:19:20,440 --> 00:19:21,920
You can take it twice or three times a day.

330
00:19:22,820 --> 00:19:23,900
Well, okay.

331
00:19:23,920 --> 00:19:25,320
So how many times did you take it that day?

332
00:19:25,360 --> 00:19:26,100
Well, I took it once.

333
00:19:27,680 --> 00:19:32,300
I'm like, and then, but, but I took it on Friday and it didn't work too.

334
00:19:32,600 --> 00:19:34,400
And I'm like, what, when did you take it on Friday?

335
00:19:35,340 --> 00:19:37,480
Well, I took it, you know, I took it before dinner.

336
00:19:38,080 --> 00:19:38,900
How did you take it?

337
00:19:39,020 --> 00:19:40,840
How many times did you take it that day?

338
00:19:41,480 --> 00:19:41,800
Once.

339
00:19:41,880 --> 00:19:42,320
I took a one.

340
00:19:42,800 --> 00:19:44,980
And I'm like, okay, so let's, let's give it a try.

341
00:19:45,140 --> 00:19:45,420
Right.

342
00:19:45,540 --> 00:19:46,660
Let's try that.

343
00:19:46,660 --> 00:19:53,540
But yeah, it's like, I think it's interesting because in some ways, super scientific, like this is the way you do it.

344
00:19:53,580 --> 00:19:57,200
And in some ways just like, that's not going to work no matter what.

345
00:19:57,420 --> 00:19:59,040
I don't care if I'm doing it wrong.

346
00:19:59,440 --> 00:20:00,980
It's not going to work.

347
00:20:01,100 --> 00:20:02,200
This is not going to work.

348
00:20:02,440 --> 00:20:04,520
And don't, don't, don't tell me.

349
00:20:04,580 --> 00:20:04,800
Right.

350
00:20:04,920 --> 00:20:05,500
Like that's that.

351
00:20:05,840 --> 00:20:15,700
So at this, now I'm just like, okay, I just need to find healthy, you know, helpful suggestions to keep her getting some nutrition.

352
00:20:15,780 --> 00:20:16,220
Right.

353
00:20:16,220 --> 00:20:19,000
Cause otherwise I'm going to be like, okay, you got to have insurance.

354
00:20:19,180 --> 00:20:21,140
And as men, we're walking a fine line now.

355
00:20:21,220 --> 00:20:21,600
Yeah.

356
00:20:21,640 --> 00:20:22,380
We don't want to fight.

357
00:20:22,460 --> 00:20:23,660
We don't want upsetting.

358
00:20:23,840 --> 00:20:23,940
Right.

359
00:20:24,040 --> 00:20:26,760
And the word you say could be upsetting.

360
00:20:27,120 --> 00:20:27,360
Yup.

361
00:20:27,560 --> 00:20:30,360
So we're, we're already walking on eggshells.

362
00:20:30,600 --> 00:20:31,300
No, I'm trying.

363
00:20:31,440 --> 00:20:31,660
Yeah.

364
00:20:31,660 --> 00:20:35,020
I'm trying to be, you know, I'm not trying to be right.

365
00:20:35,060 --> 00:20:36,280
You're not, I'm not joking around.

366
00:20:36,400 --> 00:20:36,520
Right.

367
00:20:36,560 --> 00:20:39,540
You're like, I'm trying to figure things out, trying to try and figure it out.

368
00:20:39,580 --> 00:20:40,580
And I think I'm doing okay.

369
00:20:41,200 --> 00:20:47,800
And then, so we're getting through the weekend and the food things are going okay at that point.

370
00:20:47,840 --> 00:20:51,020
And this is often the case with, with Kelly.

371
00:20:51,400 --> 00:20:52,980
So now it's a few days later.

372
00:20:52,980 --> 00:20:58,920
So we told, told everybody a few days later, and we're now it's on Sunday.

373
00:20:59,080 --> 00:21:10,240
We're on the back and she comes up with basically how she was a little disappointed in the reaction from wow.

374
00:21:10,400 --> 00:21:11,080
The phone calls.

375
00:21:11,300 --> 00:21:11,520
Yeah.

376
00:21:11,720 --> 00:21:12,080
Okay.

377
00:21:12,260 --> 00:21:15,080
And then, and then I'm like, all right, so it's set with her.

378
00:21:15,260 --> 00:21:25,100
So how to, so I'm like, okay, I wasn't sure, but I wasn't going to belabor the point or point anything out because I was hoping that was just, maybe this is what they do and everybody's happy.

379
00:21:25,180 --> 00:21:26,860
Why should I start something?

380
00:21:26,860 --> 00:21:31,700
And it was more with the, it was more with her dad, I think the reaction there.

381
00:21:31,780 --> 00:21:34,960
And in that moment, I don't want to make her feel worse.

382
00:21:35,020 --> 00:21:36,340
I'm not going to pile on and be like.

383
00:21:36,560 --> 00:21:37,240
Yeah, you're right.

384
00:21:37,320 --> 00:21:38,520
I felt the same way.

385
00:21:38,740 --> 00:21:38,880
I couldn't believe it.

386
00:21:39,340 --> 00:21:41,600
And I'm like, look, he just redid his wills.

387
00:21:41,820 --> 00:21:42,920
He has other grandchildren.

388
00:21:43,520 --> 00:21:46,100
Maybe he was just thinking, now I got to redo my wills.

389
00:21:46,480 --> 00:21:48,120
You just gave me work.

390
00:21:48,340 --> 00:21:50,900
And she's like, you know, the guy's retired.

391
00:21:50,980 --> 00:21:58,200
I'm like, you know, and she's like, yeah, I guess that could be, I'm like, maybe now he thinks there's no way you're going to leave me.

392
00:21:58,860 --> 00:22:01,140
It could be that too.

393
00:22:01,260 --> 00:22:02,440
I'm like, oh, that's over.

394
00:22:02,520 --> 00:22:03,120
She's stuck with them.

395
00:22:03,500 --> 00:22:06,900
So trying to make light of it, but it's always interesting.

396
00:22:07,400 --> 00:22:08,520
Can I ask this?

397
00:22:08,700 --> 00:22:08,840
Sure.

398
00:22:09,160 --> 00:22:15,320
Did she say anything about his reaction to her siblings, kids when they were born?

399
00:22:15,420 --> 00:22:18,720
Was he over, you know, the moon?

400
00:22:19,340 --> 00:22:29,140
No, I think it was just, you know, like you want to hear, I expected more that you want to hear the excitement, but in his defense, not a super exciting guy.

401
00:22:29,140 --> 00:22:30,840
Like he doesn't get excited.

402
00:22:31,580 --> 00:22:48,400
He's a pretty level headed guy, but you know, I think any, any daughter, they tell their father, they, you know, they want to hear a little excitement and it's not like there was nothing, but I, you know, at that point, I just, I just want her to, I don't want her focused on that.

403
00:22:48,580 --> 00:22:48,820
Right.

404
00:22:48,860 --> 00:22:52,240
I want her to be focused on all the, all the fun stuff.

405
00:22:52,600 --> 00:23:01,180
It's, it's like when you build this, um, this thought in your brain, how it's going to be like, it's like when it's like, oh my God, this party is going to be great.

406
00:23:01,300 --> 00:23:08,060
I imagined this thing happening and this, and then you get to the party and it's like, oh, there's three people here, but you built this up in your head.

407
00:23:08,060 --> 00:23:11,840
So maybe she had like a little built up, like, oh my God, I'm finally pregnant.

408
00:23:12,320 --> 00:23:16,560
Everybody, you know, people have been asking if we're ever having kids, you know, she's building this up.

409
00:23:16,600 --> 00:23:19,080
My parents are going to say this or that and then it doesn't happen.

410
00:23:19,500 --> 00:23:27,220
I'm sure now she's sitting there going, I guess I made it bigger than could very well be that kind of a, that kind of a feeling.

411
00:23:27,300 --> 00:23:27,520
Yeah.

412
00:23:27,660 --> 00:23:30,300
And I wouldn't be surprised by that at all.

413
00:23:30,460 --> 00:23:31,780
I mean, I think it's natural.

414
00:23:31,940 --> 00:23:37,400
You picture that, I think probably even more for, for women than for men.

415
00:23:37,400 --> 00:23:37,680
Right.

416
00:23:37,700 --> 00:23:42,920
Like they, because you said you could even, you could just imagine your mother getting that phone call.

417
00:23:43,060 --> 00:23:45,400
Oh, you, you knew how that was going to be.

418
00:23:45,840 --> 00:23:46,160
Right.

419
00:23:46,440 --> 00:23:50,960
So without a doubt, you know, she would have been, oh my God, it would have been beautiful.

420
00:23:51,180 --> 00:23:51,440
Absolutely.

421
00:23:51,580 --> 00:23:56,960
And so obviously, you know, maybe she built that up in her head and never got it and went, wait a minute.

422
00:23:57,180 --> 00:24:00,860
But again, like you said, you're not going to, you're not going to remind her.

423
00:24:00,980 --> 00:24:04,600
I'm not going to highlight, not going to make it bigger than, yeah, not going to highlight it.

424
00:24:04,660 --> 00:24:04,780
Yeah.

425
00:24:04,820 --> 00:24:05,680
You don't want to, yeah.

426
00:24:05,680 --> 00:24:07,200
You don't want to, you don't want to do that.

427
00:24:07,340 --> 00:24:11,340
So what did you, what, what, what, what would she say about that?

428
00:24:11,460 --> 00:24:13,140
I mean, it was really just, we talked about it.

429
00:24:13,200 --> 00:24:16,240
I, I made the joke about now you, now she won't leave me.

430
00:24:16,300 --> 00:24:21,840
I think that got her to laugh and we were just on because we were, you know, it was a beautiful day.

431
00:24:21,900 --> 00:24:24,200
And I'm like, look, we got a lot to thank for.

432
00:24:24,240 --> 00:24:26,700
We don't want to be thankful for beautiful day.

433
00:24:26,760 --> 00:24:27,960
We're going to sit here and relax.

434
00:24:28,160 --> 00:24:30,420
You don't have acid reflux right now.

435
00:24:30,440 --> 00:24:30,620
Yeah.

436
00:24:30,880 --> 00:24:32,380
And let's, let's not worry about your dad.

437
00:24:32,480 --> 00:24:33,440
Let's enjoy the day.

438
00:24:33,460 --> 00:24:33,960
That's it.

439
00:24:34,260 --> 00:24:43,480
You know, so that was kind of, you know, that was, those were the highlights of week of week 12 and then into week 13 now finally.

440
00:24:43,700 --> 00:24:50,820
So now we're waiting again for the results of the blood test to see is this a boy or a girl.

441
00:24:51,000 --> 00:24:51,100
Yep.

442
00:24:51,580 --> 00:24:57,140
And this time, you know, I'm doing whatever I'm doing during my work day.

443
00:24:57,140 --> 00:25:02,900
And I, and I get the call from Kelly, which is out of ordinary from, from her for work.

444
00:25:03,300 --> 00:25:04,820
And she's like, I was wrong.

445
00:25:05,400 --> 00:25:06,300
And it's a girl.

446
00:25:06,540 --> 00:25:06,780
Wow.

447
00:25:06,960 --> 00:25:09,380
Oh, so what was that?

448
00:25:09,440 --> 00:25:15,660
So when, when did you find out when that it was, yeah, that they were going to be born?

449
00:25:16,480 --> 00:25:18,880
The minute they said, keep pushing.

450
00:25:18,960 --> 00:25:19,720
I see the head.

451
00:25:20,000 --> 00:25:21,680
Oh, you didn't know until they were born.

452
00:25:21,980 --> 00:25:22,380
Absolutely.

453
00:25:22,820 --> 00:25:26,000
Oh, so I had no idea found out and you just chose not to.

454
00:25:26,060 --> 00:25:26,200
Yep.

455
00:25:26,260 --> 00:25:33,160
I had a, I had no idea if it was a female, a male, um, until they said it's a boy.

456
00:25:33,500 --> 00:25:34,840
Oh, that's exciting.

457
00:25:35,020 --> 00:25:36,700
I okay.

458
00:25:36,840 --> 00:25:41,300
So growing up, I've always, I don't know why, but I always felt like I was going to have a daughter.

459
00:25:41,600 --> 00:25:42,000
Right.

460
00:25:42,300 --> 00:25:42,500
Right.

461
00:25:42,580 --> 00:25:48,400
I just, part of me felt like, you know, that I was going to be a father to a daughter.

462
00:25:48,540 --> 00:25:52,720
So when even up to that point, I'm thinking I'm going to have a daughter.

463
00:25:52,980 --> 00:25:53,200
Yep.

464
00:25:53,400 --> 00:25:59,580
Even though my parents are boys and my wife's side, all boys, except her boys were everywhere.

465
00:25:59,720 --> 00:26:00,080
Right.

466
00:26:00,160 --> 00:26:01,960
And cousins, I have more male than female.

467
00:26:02,200 --> 00:26:03,540
I just felt female.

468
00:26:03,940 --> 00:26:07,460
And, uh, the minute that happened, I was like, okay.

469
00:26:08,300 --> 00:26:11,140
I cause in your head, you're thinking I'm going to have a daughter.

470
00:26:11,260 --> 00:26:13,720
I'm going to play, you know, this, there's going to be toys.

471
00:26:13,880 --> 00:26:14,740
You're imagining all those.

472
00:26:14,880 --> 00:26:16,180
You're already imagining this stuff.

473
00:26:16,200 --> 00:26:18,280
And then all of a sudden you're switching over to, Oh, it's a boy.

474
00:26:18,440 --> 00:26:19,100
Oh, okay.

475
00:26:19,820 --> 00:26:22,000
Um, so that's when I found out both kids.

476
00:26:22,240 --> 00:26:22,700
That's it.

477
00:26:22,740 --> 00:26:23,380
That's that's it.

478
00:26:23,380 --> 00:26:25,720
So you just, you wanted to be surprised.

479
00:26:25,820 --> 00:26:25,960
Yep.

480
00:26:25,960 --> 00:26:27,800
We kept the, we kept the colors neutral.

481
00:26:27,980 --> 00:26:29,720
It was like a greenish light green.

482
00:26:29,900 --> 00:26:31,340
So a little girl would make sense.

483
00:26:31,760 --> 00:26:32,060
Nothing.

484
00:26:32,120 --> 00:26:37,320
There was over, you know, male or female, nothing flowery, but you know, just basic.

485
00:26:37,620 --> 00:26:40,820
And then once you knew, then obviously you buy a courting.

486
00:26:40,980 --> 00:26:42,200
My wife did not want to know.

487
00:26:42,260 --> 00:26:43,080
I didn't care.

488
00:26:43,460 --> 00:26:45,300
All I worried about was health.

489
00:26:45,380 --> 00:26:45,680
Yep.

490
00:26:45,800 --> 00:26:53,840
Honestly, for me, the thing in my head, there's this naming convention in my family.

491
00:26:54,280 --> 00:26:54,380
Okay.

492
00:26:54,400 --> 00:26:54,600
Right.

493
00:26:54,780 --> 00:26:54,920
Yep.

494
00:26:55,100 --> 00:27:00,920
So my dad was a Frank for eight generations in his family.

495
00:27:01,120 --> 00:27:05,600
If the father was a Michael, his firstborn son was Frank.

496
00:27:06,260 --> 00:27:08,360
Frank's firstborn son was Michael.

497
00:27:08,620 --> 00:27:12,360
Like my brother, my brother, my uncles and dad, they did all that.

498
00:27:12,600 --> 00:27:14,340
So that, so all the way to my dad.

499
00:27:14,340 --> 00:27:26,900
And then my dad broke the trend in that normally the other, the other son was something other than Michael or Frank, but he named me after him.

500
00:27:26,900 --> 00:27:36,380
So then now the next generation, Mike, my one cousin, John daughters, my brother daughters, my other cousin daughter, no boys.

501
00:27:36,860 --> 00:27:41,460
So the name thing, the tradition is not going to be carried on if I don't have a bowl.

502
00:27:41,800 --> 00:27:44,120
So all along she's saying a boy, I'm like, fantastic.

503
00:27:44,300 --> 00:27:44,400
Okay.

504
00:27:44,400 --> 00:27:45,640
The name game is back.

505
00:27:45,840 --> 00:27:46,100
Yep.

506
00:27:46,340 --> 00:27:47,800
But then we're talking about it.

507
00:27:47,960 --> 00:27:48,880
Kelly has a brother, Michael.

508
00:27:49,080 --> 00:27:51,740
I have a brother, Michael, both my grandparents.

509
00:27:51,940 --> 00:27:52,460
I have a brother.

510
00:27:52,720 --> 00:27:53,600
You have a brother.

511
00:27:53,700 --> 00:27:54,100
It doesn't really matter.

512
00:27:54,280 --> 00:27:55,160
Michael's all over the place.

513
00:27:55,380 --> 00:27:59,200
So then we're like, well, maybe we'll start our own new tradition or whatever.

514
00:27:59,400 --> 00:28:02,680
So now we find that it's a girl again.

515
00:28:03,380 --> 00:28:05,760
I'm don't have to worry about that.

516
00:28:06,240 --> 00:28:10,340
I'm happy that, that everything is, you know, everything's good.

517
00:28:10,520 --> 00:28:11,600
The health is good.

518
00:28:11,700 --> 00:28:12,420
And a little girl.

519
00:28:12,420 --> 00:28:16,460
And then I start thinking with the boy, you're thinking about certain things and doing certain things with the kid.

520
00:28:16,680 --> 00:28:20,000
And my first thought was, I'm going to be mowing my lawn until I die.

521
00:28:21,260 --> 00:28:25,220
I'm not going to put the little girl on the zero turn won't happen.

522
00:28:25,400 --> 00:28:30,540
And then I'm thinking, what are the fun things I'm going to be able to do with, with a little girl?

523
00:28:30,700 --> 00:28:34,560
And immediately I'm like musical theater, all that, like the music stuff.

524
00:28:35,680 --> 00:28:36,480
And sports.

525
00:28:36,640 --> 00:28:37,820
I mean, all that stuff.

526
00:28:38,000 --> 00:28:38,100
Sure.

527
00:28:38,100 --> 00:28:40,100
I wasn't thinking about sports with a boy either.

528
00:28:41,380 --> 00:28:42,740
Frank's not really into it.

529
00:28:43,160 --> 00:28:43,560
Nope.

530
00:28:44,060 --> 00:28:54,900
Like, yeah, honestly, there was, there was one of those, there was, there were multiple times where I said, I thought, I like, I have no, it might have no interest in that.

531
00:28:55,540 --> 00:28:57,880
Not like I fought, I followed formula one.

532
00:28:58,140 --> 00:29:00,000
I've always been into racing, boxing.

533
00:29:00,180 --> 00:29:00,400
Yep.

534
00:29:00,480 --> 00:29:00,880
Absolutely.

535
00:29:01,240 --> 00:29:10,140
But like being out there and playing, playing soccer or playing by like any of that stuff, I would have been like, I'll do it, but I'm not going to pick up this guitar.

536
00:29:10,420 --> 00:29:10,640
Yeah.

537
00:29:10,680 --> 00:29:13,280
I'm like, don't, wouldn't you rather have a Marshall stack?

538
00:29:14,160 --> 00:29:16,120
I was thinking of all these things.

539
00:29:16,280 --> 00:29:17,300
That was more relief there.

540
00:29:17,360 --> 00:29:18,680
The little girl, that's funny.

541
00:29:18,860 --> 00:29:19,600
I can have fun with.

542
00:29:20,240 --> 00:29:21,040
That's exciting.

543
00:29:21,240 --> 00:29:21,900
And it still is.

544
00:29:22,240 --> 00:29:22,340
Yeah.

545
00:29:22,400 --> 00:29:27,780
When I think we'll talk about it a little bit later, we're going to do like the whole lullaby idea with a little, little boy.

546
00:29:27,860 --> 00:29:29,900
It's one thing singing to a little girl.

547
00:29:30,000 --> 00:29:31,000
So very different.

548
00:29:31,100 --> 00:29:31,460
So nice.

549
00:29:31,600 --> 00:29:33,680
So we find out it's a girl in week 13.

550
00:29:33,800 --> 00:29:47,320
And then if you recall earlier in the episode, when I was talking about the normal cycle, again, I thought that all that goes away, it just goes away miraculously.

551
00:29:47,760 --> 00:29:53,740
But then I'm seeing behavior indicative of the same.

552
00:29:54,040 --> 00:29:57,180
So I'm like, Oh no, that that's not gone.

553
00:29:57,520 --> 00:29:57,960
No, no, no.

554
00:29:58,460 --> 00:29:59,620
So it's enhanced.

555
00:30:00,880 --> 00:30:05,580
My, my, my wife is a delightful woman.

556
00:30:05,820 --> 00:30:07,660
She's always, she's very, very pleasant.

557
00:30:07,840 --> 00:30:08,580
She's very sweet.

558
00:30:08,680 --> 00:30:09,340
She's very kind.

559
00:30:09,620 --> 00:30:17,160
So when this happens, it's, it's, it's like, it's so obvious in the beginning.

560
00:30:17,180 --> 00:30:21,580
I was like, okay, like trying to figure out how serious these things were.

561
00:30:21,960 --> 00:30:25,140
But now, so now I'm like, Oh, and I'm just thinking, how stupid are you?

562
00:30:25,220 --> 00:30:28,580
Like in my caveman brain, I'm like, Oh, that's all that ends.

563
00:30:28,640 --> 00:30:29,440
And now we're pregnant.

564
00:30:29,580 --> 00:30:31,300
The shop closes for nine months.

565
00:30:31,640 --> 00:30:34,540
And I'm like, Oh no, it's the monster is here still.

566
00:30:35,640 --> 00:30:36,000
Okay.

567
00:30:36,140 --> 00:30:36,640
I can prepare.

568
00:30:36,700 --> 00:30:37,660
Let me get it back on the calendar.

569
00:30:37,960 --> 00:30:38,220
Yeah.

570
00:30:39,420 --> 00:30:40,840
And, and, and that's it.

571
00:30:40,840 --> 00:30:58,700
So that was in week 13 when I had that, that realization, not trying to get, I guess this whole podcast is personal before the pregnancy and her, uh, was she having changed mood swings when she was on, Oh, just, she would have PMS, but that was, that was it.

572
00:30:58,700 --> 00:30:59,120
Yeah.

573
00:30:59,140 --> 00:31:00,440
Just, just the noise.

574
00:31:00,600 --> 00:31:01,260
I never have.

575
00:31:01,480 --> 00:31:02,440
I've been lucky.

576
00:31:02,460 --> 00:31:10,060
I guess I have no idea when people say my wife is doing this or that it is every, you know, very, it's very different.

577
00:31:10,140 --> 00:31:21,700
It's more that I feel like Kelly is probably tolerating more of my behavior that she normally wouldn't just because she is a sweet, kind person.

578
00:31:21,920 --> 00:31:22,060
Right.

579
00:31:22,320 --> 00:31:26,220
And that, and then, so that just goes away a little bit.

580
00:31:26,260 --> 00:31:30,880
So I will do or say something that probably irritates her all the time.

581
00:31:30,920 --> 00:31:41,440
And she keeps it in and she just keeps it in, which is great for me, but the four or five days for that week, it's like, what is wrong with you?

582
00:31:41,860 --> 00:31:43,060
She's actually normal.

583
00:31:43,720 --> 00:31:51,400
She is more like a normal person in those times and less her delightful accommodating.

584
00:31:51,560 --> 00:31:51,780
Gotcha.

585
00:31:51,780 --> 00:31:52,020
Gotcha.

586
00:31:52,020 --> 00:31:52,200
Gotcha.

587
00:31:52,200 --> 00:31:52,440
Okay.

588
00:31:52,640 --> 00:31:55,820
Um, so you're getting both now she's pregnant and that hasn't gone away.

589
00:31:56,180 --> 00:31:56,440
Yeah.

590
00:31:56,600 --> 00:31:58,200
So you have the dietary stuff.

591
00:31:58,500 --> 00:32:03,160
You have the acid reflux and you still have the Crimson Panda wrestling.

592
00:32:04,040 --> 00:32:09,920
So week 14 still wrestling with the Crimson Panda, but it's getting better.

593
00:32:10,060 --> 00:32:19,880
And then we start because I've now at this point read the first of three or four books on how to bring the baby home with the dog.

594
00:32:20,000 --> 00:32:22,220
So just to let people know what, what kind of dogs do you have?

595
00:32:22,320 --> 00:32:23,180
So I have two dogs.

596
00:32:23,280 --> 00:32:26,240
So I have a, uh, soft-coated Wheaton Terrier.

597
00:32:26,280 --> 00:32:29,060
So rumple rumple is a great dog, very energetic.

598
00:32:29,140 --> 00:32:37,380
And then when rumple was about five, we got Watson who is a sheep, a doodle and Watson.

599
00:32:37,640 --> 00:32:45,800
We thought because of the weight of the mother and the father, when we talked to the breeder, we thought it was going to be like 65 pounds, bigger dog.

600
00:32:45,920 --> 00:32:46,120
Right.

601
00:32:46,540 --> 00:32:52,920
But as soon as we got him home and took him to the vet, they're like, oh no, he's going to be a hundred pounds.

602
00:32:53,120 --> 00:32:56,000
Like he was going to, he favors the sheep dog.

603
00:32:56,720 --> 00:32:58,580
So he, he ended up, he's about 85.

604
00:32:59,300 --> 00:33:00,120
He's a monster.

605
00:33:00,600 --> 00:33:01,580
He's a big boy.

606
00:33:01,660 --> 00:33:02,260
He's a puppy.

607
00:33:03,320 --> 00:33:05,560
He thinks he's a lapdog.

608
00:33:05,660 --> 00:33:05,940
Yes.

609
00:33:05,960 --> 00:33:07,380
He wants, he wants attention.

610
00:33:07,520 --> 00:33:14,040
They compete for attention and he could read like he's broken a piece, one piece of furniture in our entryway twice.

611
00:33:14,240 --> 00:33:19,540
When I walk into the studio, the house where the studio is, um, we just, it's for the first five minutes.

612
00:33:20,580 --> 00:33:22,960
Oh my God.

613
00:33:23,620 --> 00:33:25,260
My poor sister from Texas.

614
00:33:25,420 --> 00:33:29,520
When she comes to visit, she's only five feet tall and she's just like, Whoa.

615
00:33:29,960 --> 00:33:30,440
Yeah.

616
00:33:30,900 --> 00:33:32,280
With kisses and love.

617
00:33:32,740 --> 00:33:39,340
He's very, he just wants to love on you, but it's intimidating when you're 85, you know, it's an 85 pound dog.

618
00:33:39,920 --> 00:33:43,640
So now they got the idea of what kind of dogs are, is this baby coming home to?

619
00:33:43,700 --> 00:33:43,920
Yes.

620
00:33:44,320 --> 00:33:47,060
And it was interesting is rumple was like 32 pounds.

621
00:33:47,080 --> 00:33:57,800
When we got Watson rumple just went to the vet in the last couple of days for a checkup immediately after we got Watson because there's this dog.

622
00:33:57,880 --> 00:33:59,300
Watson was the same size.

623
00:33:59,420 --> 00:34:02,900
He was like eight weeks old, same size as her at that point.

624
00:34:03,000 --> 00:34:08,100
And then it just started expanding and he plays with her all the time.

625
00:34:08,239 --> 00:34:17,620
So rumple went from like 32 pounds and the vet was like little doughy, like cut back on the food to like 35 pounds, solid muscle.

626
00:34:18,520 --> 00:34:19,440
She's a tank.

627
00:34:19,900 --> 00:34:23,020
And now this last one, she's 39 pounds.

628
00:34:23,320 --> 00:34:25,060
And the doctor's not saying anything about it.

629
00:34:25,120 --> 00:34:28,219
Like she's just sturdy muscle because they're right.

630
00:34:28,280 --> 00:34:30,800
She's trying to, she's trying to dog is very, she's you pet it.

631
00:34:30,840 --> 00:34:32,159
You could, it's not luxurious.

632
00:34:32,340 --> 00:34:32,699
No.

633
00:34:32,800 --> 00:34:33,800
Cause I remember your other dogs.

634
00:34:33,880 --> 00:34:34,719
It was very fluffy.

635
00:34:35,100 --> 00:34:36,239
No, no, no.

636
00:34:36,719 --> 00:34:38,159
Rumpel is, I felt that too.

637
00:34:38,239 --> 00:34:40,960
I was like, Rumpel is tough meat in there.

638
00:34:41,000 --> 00:34:41,199
Yeah.

639
00:34:41,580 --> 00:34:42,480
Rumpel's beefy.

640
00:34:42,520 --> 00:34:42,800
Yes.

641
00:34:43,040 --> 00:34:44,820
And, but she's got to keep up with this dog.

642
00:34:44,900 --> 00:34:46,100
That's gigantic, right?

643
00:34:46,540 --> 00:34:51,840
So there, there was there, they are, they can be challenging and mostly my fault.

644
00:34:51,860 --> 00:34:54,580
I used to have very clear rules.

645
00:34:54,699 --> 00:34:55,980
The dogs didn't get on the bed.

646
00:34:56,120 --> 00:34:57,780
The dogs didn't get on the couch.

647
00:34:57,860 --> 00:34:58,640
None of that stuff.

648
00:34:58,980 --> 00:35:04,580
When Watson came along, Watson is big and goofy, but he's, he is adorable.

649
00:35:04,800 --> 00:35:07,440
And I immediately caved.

650
00:35:08,700 --> 00:35:09,480
Oh my God.

651
00:35:09,500 --> 00:35:11,760
Your, your daughter's going to have everything.

652
00:35:13,040 --> 00:35:16,900
She has no chance of not being spoiled.

653
00:35:17,140 --> 00:35:17,280
Yeah.

654
00:35:17,340 --> 00:35:17,620
I know.

655
00:35:17,740 --> 00:35:22,860
If I, if I, if I roll over for the dog, your daughter's got everything.

656
00:35:23,880 --> 00:35:24,860
You're probably right.

657
00:35:24,940 --> 00:35:25,340
I worry.

658
00:35:25,420 --> 00:35:26,360
I worry about that.

659
00:35:26,540 --> 00:35:27,600
Oh, that's what it would be like.

660
00:35:27,740 --> 00:35:30,240
He would like first, it'd be just the front paws on the couch.

661
00:35:30,240 --> 00:35:32,320
And it was like, so now it's like looking at you.

662
00:35:32,360 --> 00:35:38,540
We literally bought another, we bought a love seat because there was no more room on the couch for me because of the dogs now.

663
00:35:39,040 --> 00:35:40,840
So we haven't even gotten that far yet.

664
00:35:40,900 --> 00:35:44,580
We started now just keeping them off the bed.

665
00:35:44,700 --> 00:35:45,900
Now they didn't sleep with us.

666
00:35:45,940 --> 00:35:47,420
We weren't like crazy people like that.

667
00:35:47,800 --> 00:35:50,720
But when we would go to bed, we both be reading.

668
00:35:50,860 --> 00:35:53,740
The dogs would get be in bed with us and hanging out.

669
00:35:53,760 --> 00:35:57,900
And then as soon as the lights go out, they get up in the bed whenever they wanted.

670
00:35:58,520 --> 00:36:07,360
And so we started in, you know, then in week 14 with prepping them and getting them, that's going to be a huge change for them.

671
00:36:07,400 --> 00:36:08,500
It huge.

672
00:36:08,600 --> 00:36:08,880
It is.

673
00:36:08,920 --> 00:36:10,000
It already run the house.

674
00:36:10,080 --> 00:36:10,980
I mean, you know what I mean?

675
00:36:10,980 --> 00:36:15,780
That we're I'm the next step where we're at now is getting them off the, off the furniture.

676
00:36:15,780 --> 00:36:16,200
Okay.

677
00:36:16,520 --> 00:36:18,000
And it's gone well with the bed.

678
00:36:18,340 --> 00:36:24,580
Rumpel seems to have a harder time with remembering Watson's like, okay, it's too much effort to get up there anyway.

679
00:36:25,540 --> 00:36:26,580
But, okay.

680
00:36:26,580 --> 00:36:32,740
So we're hoping, but there's all kinds of, and when we do the book reviews, the book report, I'll go into all that.

681
00:36:32,900 --> 00:36:34,140
The books were valuable.

682
00:36:34,480 --> 00:36:35,060
It seems crazy.

683
00:36:35,140 --> 00:36:36,940
I wish she hadn't bought four books.

684
00:36:37,340 --> 00:36:38,660
We're having a conversation today.

685
00:36:38,660 --> 00:36:40,340
She's like, you really need to read this book.

686
00:36:40,380 --> 00:36:44,740
I'm like, I would be reading that book if you hadn't bought four books.

687
00:36:44,840 --> 00:36:47,340
I'm like, I only have so much time to do this stuff.

688
00:36:47,560 --> 00:36:58,780
And so we, we start prepping the dogs in week 14 and Kelly starts, she borrows from my sister, a wedge pillow to help with the acid reflux seems to help a little bit.

689
00:36:58,900 --> 00:36:59,640
So that's good.

690
00:36:59,760 --> 00:37:16,980
And then we're headed into week 15 week 15 really is probably the most difficult week from tired difficulty with fine and stuff that she wants to eat being exhausted.

691
00:37:17,260 --> 00:37:18,820
Like she's, she's pretty tired.

692
00:37:19,080 --> 00:37:23,140
And this is when it should be, it should be kind of resolving, right?

693
00:37:23,160 --> 00:37:25,240
Like the first trimester is where most of that is happening.

694
00:37:25,600 --> 00:37:27,860
We're already a couple of weeks out of that.

695
00:37:28,140 --> 00:37:31,720
I'm seriously now growing concerned.

696
00:37:31,840 --> 00:37:36,340
I don't understand how she doesn't eat, like how little she eats in a normal situation.

697
00:37:36,340 --> 00:37:36,720
Right.

698
00:37:36,860 --> 00:37:41,500
But now I'm like, you're feeding to, she's, she's throwing, she's eating and not eating a lot.

699
00:37:41,520 --> 00:37:47,340
And she's having, she's having more, she's throwing up and I'm like, I'm like, okay, we're like, we got to get her to eat stuff.

700
00:37:47,860 --> 00:37:55,480
But you know, I, I'm having some success finding different options and she's finding certain things that are working, but it's rough.

701
00:37:55,500 --> 00:38:08,740
Cause I think at that point starting to wear on her to the point where we went over to my sister's house and the next morning she's like, well, you know, Avi and I were both a little, you know, is she, how is she doing?

702
00:38:08,800 --> 00:38:14,300
Like they just saw she was not her usual delightful self, especially when somebody is one way.

703
00:38:14,400 --> 00:38:17,580
And that's the only way, you know, her never had a kid before.

704
00:38:17,620 --> 00:38:28,300
So you wouldn't even know, like, well, I remember on your first child, right now you're going from, this is the only way I know this woman, which is kind of pleasant and always trying to make somebody happy and feel good.

705
00:38:28,480 --> 00:38:37,200
And now she's, I wouldn't, she's, she isn't the, she isn't the girl that you would say was perky, but always engaging and positive.

706
00:38:37,200 --> 00:38:40,180
And yeah, and she's just, she's exhausted.

707
00:38:40,440 --> 00:38:43,200
I don't remember the last time I had to throw up, but she was throwing up all the time.

708
00:38:43,440 --> 00:38:44,100
It's awful.

709
00:38:44,660 --> 00:38:47,740
Starting toward the end of that week, starting to improve.

710
00:38:48,220 --> 00:38:53,660
And then we kind of had that visit and then we're rolling into week 16.

711
00:38:53,960 --> 00:38:57,480
So now it's a couple of weeks after we're going back to the OBGYN.

712
00:38:58,160 --> 00:39:04,960
So right before that things are a little bit better, but I'm still seeing, she's not eating a whole lot.

713
00:39:05,680 --> 00:39:10,460
So of course, what does the doctor always, you know, you have to sit down, doctor comes in.

714
00:39:10,520 --> 00:39:11,620
So how are things going?

715
00:39:12,140 --> 00:39:13,200
Oh, things are going much better.

716
00:39:13,440 --> 00:39:18,000
She literally says, oh, everything's been going great.

717
00:39:18,120 --> 00:39:21,260
And then she looks at me like he knows I'm lying.

718
00:39:21,320 --> 00:39:21,560
Right.

719
00:39:21,680 --> 00:39:22,780
And I'm like, am I going to rat her out?

720
00:39:22,780 --> 00:39:23,580
Are you going to rat me out?

721
00:39:23,700 --> 00:39:23,940
Yeah.

722
00:39:24,040 --> 00:39:26,000
And I'm like, I just roll my eyes.

723
00:39:26,160 --> 00:39:29,720
And like, so they're talking and they go through everything like a lawyer.

724
00:39:29,800 --> 00:39:34,320
Can I see you in your chambers sidebar sidebar?

725
00:39:34,860 --> 00:39:41,100
So, and then she kind of goes through some of the challenges she's been having and they're reassuring.

726
00:39:41,280 --> 00:39:47,020
And then, but I'm still like, so is her weight on track where it should be?

727
00:39:48,060 --> 00:39:55,780
And I realize as this is coming out of my mouth at this point, I don't think she looks like she's not showing at all.

728
00:39:55,780 --> 00:39:57,500
She doesn't have a little baby bump or anything.

729
00:39:57,980 --> 00:39:59,060
She's tall.

730
00:39:59,220 --> 00:39:59,920
She's thin.

731
00:40:00,180 --> 00:40:01,540
And then there's me.

732
00:40:02,480 --> 00:40:03,200
Okay.

733
00:40:03,460 --> 00:40:18,320
So, and as I'm saying this, I see the look on the, the doctor's face go from interested to what an asshole, because I think somehow she's interpreting my question.

734
00:40:18,420 --> 00:40:24,440
Not that is she gaining enough weight, but is she gaining too much weight?

735
00:40:24,540 --> 00:40:25,720
Oh my God.

736
00:40:25,880 --> 00:40:30,260
And I'm like, and I can see the, like the look is like, oh yeah, she's, she's fine.

737
00:40:30,400 --> 00:40:32,200
So how did you ask that again to her?

738
00:40:32,300 --> 00:40:36,100
I, I think I just said is, so is her weight on track, right?

739
00:40:36,140 --> 00:40:37,140
Is her weight on track?

740
00:40:37,460 --> 00:40:40,740
But how could you like, you can't look at her.

741
00:40:40,780 --> 00:40:41,860
She doesn't even look pregnant.

742
00:40:41,960 --> 00:40:43,220
You would have to be divorced.

743
00:40:43,280 --> 00:40:45,520
She's four months pregnant practically.

744
00:40:46,200 --> 00:40:47,640
And, and, but I could see it.

745
00:40:47,640 --> 00:40:51,360
And the nurse is just like, I get the side eye from the nurse.

746
00:40:51,720 --> 00:40:52,440
That's funny.

747
00:40:54,300 --> 00:40:55,580
So how did you get out of that?

748
00:40:55,840 --> 00:40:58,040
I just was like, okay, good.

749
00:40:59,540 --> 00:41:01,640
But I could definitely see there was that.

750
00:41:01,880 --> 00:41:03,460
I would have been like, I think she's too skinny.

751
00:41:04,980 --> 00:41:05,660
I'm not a jerk.

752
00:41:05,880 --> 00:41:06,720
Listen, buddy.

753
00:41:07,140 --> 00:41:08,220
Like I could just picture it.

754
00:41:08,220 --> 00:41:09,200
Your wife looks fine.

755
00:41:09,360 --> 00:41:09,460
Yeah.

756
00:41:09,760 --> 00:41:11,540
Maybe we should, you want us to weigh you?

757
00:41:13,220 --> 00:41:14,500
Who's pregnant here?

758
00:41:15,500 --> 00:41:17,220
Oh, that's, that's funny.

759
00:41:17,220 --> 00:41:20,920
I'm like, I'm probably never going to ask another question as long as we're going there.

760
00:41:21,260 --> 00:41:22,040
No more weight questions.

761
00:41:22,800 --> 00:41:23,440
We did that.

762
00:41:23,480 --> 00:41:24,920
And then that was it.

763
00:41:24,980 --> 00:41:28,940
Everything's going good and is on track and week 16.

764
00:41:29,280 --> 00:41:38,420
And then we had the upgrade from the wedge pillow to the Pacific body pillow for pregnant people.

765
00:41:38,500 --> 00:41:38,620
Yep.

766
00:41:38,760 --> 00:41:49,500
That it's a longer, it looks like a lowercase F or like a candy cane with, with like a floppy nose in the middle.

767
00:41:49,660 --> 00:41:51,720
So it's like, yes, I've never used, we've never had that.

768
00:41:51,820 --> 00:41:52,740
It works like a charm.

769
00:41:52,840 --> 00:41:53,880
She tries it out.

770
00:41:53,940 --> 00:41:54,640
She loves it.

771
00:41:55,000 --> 00:41:55,680
And stupid.

772
00:41:56,040 --> 00:41:57,740
How do you use, what do you do?

773
00:41:57,880 --> 00:41:58,220
Hug it?

774
00:41:58,280 --> 00:41:58,680
What do you do?

775
00:41:59,120 --> 00:41:59,500
Basically?

776
00:41:59,540 --> 00:41:59,780
Yeah.

777
00:41:59,900 --> 00:42:06,040
Like you, you hug it and then it's got that the, the, the floppy part, you can kind of put wherever she wants to.

778
00:42:06,260 --> 00:42:09,740
So to support or above her belly.

779
00:42:09,740 --> 00:42:10,060
Okay.

780
00:42:11,160 --> 00:42:13,280
Twisted and I just know it doesn't happen.

781
00:42:14,140 --> 00:42:15,540
All I know is it made a difference.

782
00:42:15,680 --> 00:42:15,820
Okay.

783
00:42:15,840 --> 00:42:16,700
She's more comfortable.

784
00:42:17,200 --> 00:42:20,560
Um, and, and yeah, so that was a, that was a big thing.

785
00:42:20,580 --> 00:42:32,160
She, she got the body pillow and then we roll into 17 week 17, the upset stomach stuff starts to resolve.

786
00:42:32,740 --> 00:42:34,080
She's got more energy.

787
00:42:34,460 --> 00:42:34,820
Okay.

788
00:42:34,820 --> 00:42:38,400
She's feeling much better, much more like herself.

789
00:42:38,480 --> 00:42:40,400
You get her on a treadmill, so she loses weight.

790
00:42:41,000 --> 00:42:44,200
I'm like, no more, no more book for you.

791
00:42:44,400 --> 00:42:45,520
Like I'm trying to get her to eat.

792
00:42:46,060 --> 00:42:49,540
It was, that was a funny moment with the doctor.

793
00:42:49,820 --> 00:42:55,540
So we're getting ready to start doing this stuff and I start learning lullabies.

794
00:42:55,660 --> 00:43:04,820
The idea came from, we're watching movies one weekend and Kelly points out this Danny K movie and it's the court jester.

795
00:43:05,060 --> 00:43:05,280
Okay.

796
00:43:05,360 --> 00:43:13,880
And there's a, a really cute song where he's trying to get this baby to sleep and he sings this lullaby and I'm like, Oh, I could do lullabies like it.

797
00:43:14,160 --> 00:43:15,720
And it's a really pretty song.

798
00:43:15,760 --> 00:43:16,880
So I make a note of it.

799
00:43:17,020 --> 00:43:19,520
So now I'm starting to learn on learning songs.

800
00:43:19,600 --> 00:43:20,120
It's fun.

801
00:43:20,260 --> 00:43:20,480
Yeah.

802
00:43:20,760 --> 00:43:22,340
And I'm, I'm enjoying that.

803
00:43:22,360 --> 00:43:27,000
And then one time I'm practicing and Kelly happened to be home.

804
00:43:27,120 --> 00:43:28,320
So she's on the couch.

805
00:43:28,440 --> 00:43:33,240
I'm there and I'm, you know, looking, looking up different things and trying, trying some songs out.

806
00:43:34,280 --> 00:43:38,900
And I had already had the experience without her around some of these songs.

807
00:43:38,980 --> 00:43:43,120
They're all the, you know, they're all touching, pretty songs.

808
00:43:43,360 --> 00:43:51,920
Now I'm thinking that I'm going to sing this to my daughter and I will get choked up singing somebody like I, where I can't, I gotta have to stop.

809
00:43:52,420 --> 00:43:56,120
And I'm thinking, gee, is this a normal reaction?

810
00:43:56,300 --> 00:43:57,840
Like, am I more emotional?

811
00:43:58,140 --> 00:44:10,820
Like then the time I'm that Kelly is there and I'm practicing and I get to one of those points where I would normally start to choke up and I look up and she's full on crying.

812
00:44:11,440 --> 00:44:13,260
Cause you guys are a mess.

813
00:44:13,340 --> 00:44:13,980
She's just crying.

814
00:44:14,240 --> 00:44:15,180
It made me stop.

815
00:44:15,220 --> 00:44:18,700
I'm like, are we more broken than I thought we were?

816
00:44:18,780 --> 00:44:22,140
Like, are we missing all joy, man?

817
00:44:22,280 --> 00:44:28,180
Well, it is, it's the journey you guys went through to get to this point and now it's real.

818
00:44:28,200 --> 00:44:33,840
And you're imagining everything that you've thought about not ever having again.

819
00:44:33,980 --> 00:44:35,860
And now it's in front of you.

820
00:44:36,060 --> 00:44:39,780
Isn't it crazy how it's faceless right now?

821
00:44:39,920 --> 00:44:41,140
It's you haven't touched it.

822
00:44:41,140 --> 00:44:46,900
You haven't, you haven't heard it cried and it's got you already.

823
00:44:47,260 --> 00:44:51,620
You're tearing up even the thought you're imagining a fake face right now.

824
00:44:51,700 --> 00:44:57,120
You don't know how it looks, but you were imagining your daughter or your son, you know, to certain people.

825
00:44:57,140 --> 00:45:04,600
And it's crazy to me how we fall in love before we even touch this human.

826
00:45:05,000 --> 00:45:06,620
And that's what you're experiencing.

827
00:45:06,620 --> 00:45:16,320
You are so much in love with this being, with this idea, with, with this thing that you created with your wife.

828
00:45:16,660 --> 00:45:19,980
When people say it's a miracle, it is the magic part about it.

829
00:45:19,980 --> 00:45:23,740
The faith end of it, the everything goes together.

830
00:45:23,840 --> 00:45:25,020
It makes one emotion.

831
00:45:25,120 --> 00:45:25,360
Right.

832
00:45:25,420 --> 00:45:27,060
And that's what flows out of you.

833
00:45:27,140 --> 00:45:28,400
I think there is part of that.

834
00:45:28,460 --> 00:45:31,310
I also think that we're probably pretty broken too.

835
00:45:31,310 --> 00:45:55,510
Like being objectively thinking back, look, I had a better childhood than lots of people, but there are those, there are those things that you think like, it'll just be a particular line and I'll stop and think about it and start to make connections with childhood stuff and what you wanted, the relationship you wanted, the relationship I wanted with my dad that wasn't there.

836
00:45:56,050 --> 00:45:59,870
And I think Kelly has some of that, some of that too.

837
00:46:00,430 --> 00:46:09,330
And Jen, but I think more generally, I think for her, it it's more, I'm broken and she's hormonal, right?

838
00:46:09,330 --> 00:46:10,510
Like she's pregnant.

839
00:46:10,930 --> 00:46:12,490
You have no reason.

840
00:46:12,630 --> 00:46:14,730
You don't have a human growing in you.

841
00:46:14,970 --> 00:46:16,330
I don't have anything going on.

842
00:46:16,430 --> 00:46:17,850
I should be happy as a clam.

843
00:46:18,110 --> 00:46:21,330
And I'm like playing the song from Dumbo and crying.

844
00:46:24,370 --> 00:46:25,370
She's swinging them.

845
00:46:25,550 --> 00:46:32,910
Do you, do you think, do you think you think your age, you're older and more emotional because I'm crying at everything.

846
00:46:33,130 --> 00:46:33,650
Yeah.

847
00:46:33,750 --> 00:46:34,230
I cry.

848
00:46:34,510 --> 00:46:49,670
I think there is, I do think that as you get older, when the testosterone starts to roll off for me, it was like a fog lifted and you see the world in a different way with more layers.

849
00:46:49,670 --> 00:46:56,690
I do believe that when you're young, you're focused on, it's all things and drive.

850
00:46:57,130 --> 00:47:07,530
And then when that goes away, I think you start to see things and you're, and you're willing to get, and you don't, you don't care about being strong or tough or any of that stuff.

851
00:47:07,850 --> 00:47:07,950
Gone.

852
00:47:08,050 --> 00:47:08,350
Yeah.

853
00:47:08,430 --> 00:47:10,090
That, that, that's gone.

854
00:47:10,210 --> 00:47:11,430
I think that you put it right.

855
00:47:11,490 --> 00:47:14,050
You feel like you can see clearer.

856
00:47:14,150 --> 00:47:18,870
You see, you see life, you see the world in a, in a, in a different light.

857
00:47:18,870 --> 00:47:20,650
I think that, I think that's true.

858
00:47:20,770 --> 00:47:24,950
That's why I mentioned before at your age doing this, you're going to be so much clearer.

859
00:47:25,070 --> 00:47:25,490
Yeah.

860
00:47:25,530 --> 00:47:32,630
Maybe the word that I didn't have back then, your mind's clear and you're going to see things differently than if you were 28 years old having a child.

861
00:47:32,730 --> 00:47:32,990
Right.

862
00:47:33,110 --> 00:47:37,470
I mean, so that's going to help out as well when you're parenting through hard stuff.

863
00:47:37,590 --> 00:47:38,430
There's no doubt.

864
00:47:38,550 --> 00:47:44,130
There are times you encounter things with work and dealing with employees and difficult situations.

865
00:47:44,650 --> 00:47:48,410
15 years ago, 20 years ago, the person would have been in a dumpster.

866
00:47:48,410 --> 00:47:48,610
Right.

867
00:47:48,610 --> 00:47:49,290
Believe him.

868
00:47:49,390 --> 00:47:51,170
I worked with him most of my life.

869
00:47:52,050 --> 00:47:54,170
But now it's almost amusing.

870
00:47:54,390 --> 00:47:55,710
You metabolize things differently.

871
00:47:56,090 --> 00:47:59,630
I am having a lot of fun with the lullaby stuff.

872
00:47:59,750 --> 00:48:00,030
Yeah.

873
00:48:00,030 --> 00:48:01,070
You're doing the lullabies.

874
00:48:01,310 --> 00:48:01,650
So find it.

875
00:48:01,690 --> 00:48:01,810
Yeah.

876
00:48:01,810 --> 00:48:04,990
So I'm, I'm enjoying, and I've continued to enjoy that.

877
00:48:05,010 --> 00:48:06,790
We're going to add that to our podcast.

878
00:48:07,070 --> 00:48:12,310
The fun part when Kelly was around was now I have the context of, I'm singing this to a little girl.

879
00:48:12,490 --> 00:48:12,750
Right.

880
00:48:12,810 --> 00:48:26,450
So I'm finding these fun songs that are romantic songs, like American songbook songs that you can take down and I can sing real low and soft and it'll be, it wouldn't work as a lullaby for a little boy, but it'll work for a little girl.

881
00:48:26,810 --> 00:48:27,590
Let me get to pay.

882
00:48:27,730 --> 00:48:31,450
So you're actually singing to the baby right now playing.

883
00:48:31,550 --> 00:48:39,270
Um, well I'm, and I'm thinking about it and I'm, I'm, I'm playing and Kelly is there, but I'm not like, I don't have a speaker on her belt.

884
00:48:39,350 --> 00:48:41,730
You're not like singing it into the, right.

885
00:48:41,870 --> 00:48:45,150
Into the Eddie Van Halen was playing the guitar.

886
00:48:45,150 --> 00:48:45,910
Three 16.

887
00:48:46,010 --> 00:48:49,990
I would like to, that's a fun, uh, yes, that's right.

888
00:48:50,110 --> 00:48:51,610
No, I have to for Wolfgang.

889
00:48:51,710 --> 00:48:52,650
And look how great he is.

890
00:48:52,730 --> 00:48:53,050
Yes.

891
00:48:53,610 --> 00:48:55,370
He's pretty, he's pretty amazing.

892
00:48:55,590 --> 00:48:56,070
He's amazing.

893
00:48:56,270 --> 00:48:58,430
But he has a different relationship with food too.

894
00:48:58,690 --> 00:48:59,850
He has that relationship.

895
00:49:00,330 --> 00:49:00,850
That's right.

896
00:49:01,370 --> 00:49:02,590
He's got an Italian mother.

897
00:49:02,830 --> 00:49:03,570
He's got the other mother.

898
00:49:03,670 --> 00:49:12,550
So no, I'm not, I'm not singing to the baby, but I'm, I'm picturing that and that, and I'm bringing out these songs and I started to sing them and I'm thinking Kelly's like, you're enjoying doing that.

899
00:49:12,550 --> 00:49:16,810
I'm like, I'm going to make it impossible for this girl to love another man.

900
00:49:19,350 --> 00:49:22,070
My father, like that, that's the goal, right?

901
00:49:22,110 --> 00:49:23,270
I don't want to ruin.

902
00:49:24,450 --> 00:49:25,410
Can you run a company?

903
00:49:25,490 --> 00:49:26,310
Can you play music?

904
00:49:26,350 --> 00:49:26,870
Can you sing?

905
00:49:27,270 --> 00:49:32,510
Can you, it's like the bar's going to be high for some, some kid to come along.

906
00:49:32,690 --> 00:49:33,410
Or so that's good.

907
00:49:33,570 --> 00:49:35,630
Cause I'm going to be, I'm going to, I'm going to be too old.

908
00:49:35,810 --> 00:49:39,930
They're going to be like, yeah, that guy drooling in the corner.

909
00:49:40,190 --> 00:49:40,430
Yeah.

910
00:49:40,430 --> 00:49:41,510
He was pretty sharp.

911
00:49:43,450 --> 00:49:47,070
So I said, then she's like, that shouldn't be your goal.

912
00:49:47,930 --> 00:49:48,450
Okay.

913
00:49:48,810 --> 00:49:50,470
Maybe, maybe Kelly's with you.

914
00:49:50,650 --> 00:49:51,070
Yes.

915
00:49:51,190 --> 00:49:52,050
She'll, she will.

916
00:49:52,330 --> 00:49:53,990
She will keep that stuff in check.

917
00:49:54,030 --> 00:49:54,690
That's funny though.

918
00:49:54,830 --> 00:49:56,750
So we're now we're like week 18.

919
00:49:57,390 --> 00:49:59,330
Now the baby bump is there.

920
00:49:59,470 --> 00:50:02,450
People are noticing it's fun for me.

921
00:50:02,530 --> 00:50:03,490
I'm like, it's exciting.

922
00:50:03,830 --> 00:50:04,250
It's a thing.

923
00:50:04,330 --> 00:50:04,590
Yeah.

924
00:50:04,590 --> 00:50:05,430
That's there.

925
00:50:05,910 --> 00:50:06,890
Got more energy.

926
00:50:06,930 --> 00:50:12,750
Now we're doing, we're doing more stuff because we've got a little orchard on our property.

927
00:50:12,790 --> 00:50:14,090
We've got a couple of apple trees.

928
00:50:14,250 --> 00:50:19,310
So we're picking apples and enjoying that work on some of the home projects started.

929
00:50:20,070 --> 00:50:21,690
So getting the nursery ready.

930
00:50:21,690 --> 00:50:30,490
I've got some stuff I've got to do and we're going to be doing some light electrical and some light construction work, but that's fun.

931
00:50:30,630 --> 00:50:31,050
You're good at that.

932
00:50:31,150 --> 00:50:31,770
Picking things out.

933
00:50:31,810 --> 00:50:31,930
Yeah.

934
00:50:31,970 --> 00:50:32,990
It'll be, it'll be fun.

935
00:50:33,050 --> 00:50:35,310
It'll take, take a little time, but that'll be good.

936
00:50:35,670 --> 00:50:40,590
And then we're into week 19, week 19 is.

937
00:50:41,330 --> 00:50:44,670
What I thought might be a pregnancy thing, but it wasn't.

938
00:50:45,270 --> 00:50:47,050
It was the arrival of Fartzilla.

939
00:50:48,790 --> 00:50:56,710
I heard Kelly toot more in three days than I had in our whole relationship.

940
00:50:56,710 --> 00:50:58,350
I'm like, what is going on?

941
00:50:58,610 --> 00:50:59,190
Like, it's not me.

942
00:50:59,310 --> 00:50:59,650
It's the baby.

943
00:50:59,790 --> 00:51:00,430
I'm excited.

944
00:51:00,570 --> 00:51:01,590
Like, I'm like, finally.

945
00:51:01,810 --> 00:51:02,110
Yes.

946
00:51:02,150 --> 00:51:02,850
You're like me.

947
00:51:02,990 --> 00:51:03,230
Yeah.

948
00:51:04,670 --> 00:51:05,430
That's it.

949
00:51:05,910 --> 00:51:07,110
We're a team now.

950
00:51:07,110 --> 00:51:08,090
You can't yell at me anymore.

951
00:51:09,330 --> 00:51:10,130
Yes, I can.

952
00:51:11,170 --> 00:51:12,030
You're disgusting.

953
00:51:12,250 --> 00:51:13,490
I, I have toots.

954
00:51:14,170 --> 00:51:15,110
This is the baby.

955
00:51:16,150 --> 00:51:17,870
So I thought, wow, this will be fun.

956
00:51:17,910 --> 00:51:19,090
But it went away in a couple of days.

957
00:51:19,090 --> 00:51:27,890
So by week 20, Fartzilla is gone, but then week 20 is the full anatomy scan.

958
00:51:28,050 --> 00:51:28,390
Yes.

959
00:51:29,130 --> 00:51:30,730
So that's a big one.

960
00:51:31,450 --> 00:51:34,450
We go in this practice, big practice.

961
00:51:34,590 --> 00:51:37,190
You go in, they do all the normal stuff.

962
00:51:37,190 --> 00:51:40,950
You go in for the sonogram and they start.

963
00:51:41,170 --> 00:51:44,290
This time, they're looking for everything.

964
00:51:44,390 --> 00:51:45,610
So they're taking measurements.

965
00:51:45,710 --> 00:51:50,810
And these are the length of the femurs and doing, seeing everything that is on track.

966
00:51:51,230 --> 00:51:53,550
Everything's going good, good, good, good, good, good, good.

967
00:51:53,970 --> 00:51:56,770
I'm like, okay, like this is, this is all good news.

968
00:51:56,770 --> 00:52:06,430
And you're getting to see now, I have some of the pictures and you can see like the profile of that's a little girl, like that's a baby's head.

969
00:52:06,430 --> 00:52:08,790
You get the, my favorite one immediately.

970
00:52:09,010 --> 00:52:14,450
The first thing that I really recognized was two feet, like there they are.

971
00:52:14,470 --> 00:52:15,550
I'm like, those are feet.

972
00:52:16,070 --> 00:52:16,350
Yeah.

973
00:52:16,490 --> 00:52:18,470
So that was, that was a lot of fun.

974
00:52:19,190 --> 00:52:26,770
And Kelly is feeling now movement and not really kicks or things, but little flutters and things that are happening.

975
00:52:27,110 --> 00:52:28,390
Now you saw, you saw the feet.

976
00:52:28,430 --> 00:52:29,230
Did you see the hands?

977
00:52:30,170 --> 00:52:31,650
We'd no jazz hands this time.

978
00:52:31,670 --> 00:52:35,330
There was a little kind of like, leave me alone moments.

979
00:52:35,410 --> 00:52:36,330
Like, what are you doing?

980
00:52:36,330 --> 00:52:38,270
Like, this is my, that's my couch.

981
00:52:38,610 --> 00:52:41,610
So, uh, no, but not the hands.

982
00:52:41,710 --> 00:52:43,650
That's where the feet definitely saw that.

983
00:52:43,850 --> 00:52:53,450
And then they're, they're like, oh, there's the spine and they're measuring and there's this and that and looking at the heart and the kidneys and all this stuff and taking all these pictures and their label.

984
00:52:53,470 --> 00:52:58,030
And I'm like, the girl works incredibly fast and you can barely keep up with what they're doing.

985
00:52:58,050 --> 00:53:01,170
And then you go and talk to the doctor, different person.

986
00:53:01,230 --> 00:53:04,650
This time we go through it and everything's good.

987
00:53:04,710 --> 00:53:05,270
Everything's good.

988
00:53:05,270 --> 00:53:19,990
And then they say at the end, well, there is one thing I said, with everything else being good, we're not really concerned about it, but there was a bright spot in her heart, but the functions are all the structure of the heart would look completely normal.

989
00:53:20,110 --> 00:53:25,730
So it could just be a normal artifact of development, calcium or something.

990
00:53:26,270 --> 00:53:29,250
Can't couldn't there just be one where everything's like, everything's good.

991
00:53:29,330 --> 00:53:31,310
You don't have to, I felt that way too.

992
00:53:31,750 --> 00:53:36,190
It seems like they never want to let you go with everything's great.

993
00:53:36,190 --> 00:53:38,530
Cause then they want to cover themselves.

994
00:53:39,030 --> 00:53:39,170
Yeah.

995
00:53:39,470 --> 00:53:40,590
Cause I felt the same way.

996
00:53:40,650 --> 00:53:46,350
I'm like, you're always going home with, well, we did see this and we heard that, but yeah.

997
00:53:47,190 --> 00:53:49,490
And obviously nothing came out of mine.

998
00:53:49,750 --> 00:53:53,290
But I, I don't know if it's something that they just kind of go, you know what?

999
00:53:54,170 --> 00:53:55,330
We saw something.

1000
00:53:56,090 --> 00:54:00,290
They'll probably think it's nothing, but I have to say it because it's on the photo.

1001
00:54:00,610 --> 00:54:01,490
It's, you know what I mean?

1002
00:54:01,550 --> 00:54:07,030
I think in this, this day and age with malpractice and all that stuff, I think they're terrified.

1003
00:54:07,330 --> 00:54:07,610
Exactly.

1004
00:54:07,630 --> 00:54:08,670
They never want to tell you.

1005
00:54:09,970 --> 00:54:16,250
Cause that's why they're told you at the same time, we told you about this thing, but at the same time, the whole function, the functioning, the heart is functioning.

1006
00:54:16,430 --> 00:54:16,670
Yeah.

1007
00:54:16,750 --> 00:54:20,470
So to make you sleep at night, you're, you're good, but I can't, I have to tell you.

1008
00:54:20,710 --> 00:54:21,350
I got to tell you we did.

1009
00:54:21,590 --> 00:54:21,810
Exactly.

1010
00:54:22,570 --> 00:54:24,450
So hopefully that's all that is.

1011
00:54:24,670 --> 00:54:27,450
So we did the anatomy scan, everything good.

1012
00:54:27,450 --> 00:54:30,190
I had some travel at right after that.

1013
00:54:30,270 --> 00:54:31,670
I had some travel for work.

1014
00:54:32,270 --> 00:54:33,650
So we're at 20 weeks.

1015
00:54:33,850 --> 00:54:34,010
Yeah.

1016
00:54:34,030 --> 00:54:36,090
This will be our next episode.

1017
00:54:36,230 --> 00:54:36,970
We'll be real time.

1018
00:54:37,230 --> 00:54:37,630
Yeah.

1019
00:54:37,630 --> 00:54:38,850
I walked in today.

1020
00:54:38,930 --> 00:54:39,950
I didn't know she was here.

1021
00:54:40,090 --> 00:54:40,350
Yeah.

1022
00:54:40,470 --> 00:54:42,270
And I did get to see the baby bump.

1023
00:54:42,470 --> 00:54:42,870
That's right.

1024
00:54:43,050 --> 00:54:50,730
You could, even though she still looks like her thin, but if you really look, she's wearing her shirt a little bit more room there.

1025
00:54:50,870 --> 00:54:51,190
Yeah.

1026
00:54:51,350 --> 00:54:51,510
Yeah.

1027
00:54:51,510 --> 00:54:54,990
She's, she's still, she's within five pounds of where she always is.

1028
00:54:54,990 --> 00:54:55,930
Like it's nothing.

1029
00:54:55,930 --> 00:54:59,070
But you could tell, you could tell she's a pregnant woman and that's nice.

1030
00:54:59,170 --> 00:55:05,690
So you've been through it, but we can always go back and revisit, you know, week nine or week seven or whatever.

1031
00:55:05,850 --> 00:55:08,610
But we want, we just wanted to bring you guys up to date.

1032
00:55:08,750 --> 00:55:09,090
Yeah.

1033
00:55:09,310 --> 00:55:12,090
So the next time we talk, it's going to be happening.

1034
00:55:12,410 --> 00:55:15,170
And then we'll be able to hopefully start with our next episode.

1035
00:55:15,290 --> 00:55:16,930
Start weaving, weaving in.

1036
00:55:17,290 --> 00:55:20,790
I know there's going to be an update for, for a check, please.

1037
00:55:20,890 --> 00:55:21,870
We're going to have that.

1038
00:55:21,870 --> 00:55:24,010
There'll be at least one book report.

1039
00:55:24,170 --> 00:55:27,690
Cause I'm almost finished with book four on how to talk to the dogs.

1040
00:55:27,790 --> 00:55:28,230
Yeah.

1041
00:55:28,310 --> 00:55:30,950
And then there's a bunch of other stuff coming with that.

1042
00:55:31,010 --> 00:55:32,170
Maybe a lullaby.

1043
00:55:32,470 --> 00:55:36,290
I know you did an interview with, um, with John, one of our friends.

1044
00:55:36,450 --> 00:55:36,570
Yeah.

1045
00:55:36,570 --> 00:55:39,430
We're going to probably sneak in there somewhere down the line.

1046
00:55:39,610 --> 00:55:40,070
That will happen.

1047
00:55:40,110 --> 00:55:47,570
And with this going out week three, the first episode in our timeline that we're recording this, I just went out this morning.

1048
00:55:47,690 --> 00:55:47,830
Right.

1049
00:55:47,830 --> 00:55:54,890
I'm hoping we get a few listeners and people start emailing us with ideas and thoughts and things to talk about and questions.

1050
00:55:55,010 --> 00:55:59,690
We really want that to be a big part of what we do.

1051
00:55:59,850 --> 00:56:09,590
And I want to say this about myself and we're not saying that we're professionals, we're doctors, we're medical, our medical terms are going to be off.

1052
00:56:09,890 --> 00:56:19,890
This is just our life in what we experienced with our wives being pregnant and us being or me being a father and he will be soon.

1053
00:56:20,090 --> 00:56:21,590
It's what's happened to us.

1054
00:56:21,690 --> 00:56:22,710
I just want to throw it out there.

1055
00:56:22,810 --> 00:56:25,130
We're not pretending that we know everything we don't.

1056
00:56:25,210 --> 00:56:30,610
We know we actually know less than not even close in my imagination.

1057
00:56:30,630 --> 00:56:35,150
They're thinking this guy has no idea what he's up against.

1058
00:56:35,250 --> 00:56:35,510
Right.

1059
00:56:35,550 --> 00:56:35,690
Right.

1060
00:56:35,790 --> 00:56:36,990
I think we'll get into that.

1061
00:56:37,170 --> 00:56:37,570
And that's okay.

1062
00:56:37,670 --> 00:56:41,250
Right now we're keeping it very safe.

1063
00:56:41,350 --> 00:56:41,810
Like, yeah.

1064
00:56:41,930 --> 00:56:42,690
So week 11.

1065
00:56:43,010 --> 00:56:44,130
That is one thing that, yeah.

1066
00:56:44,130 --> 00:56:54,130
If people come along for the ride on this, they will learn very quickly that I'm very planned, structured, organized person.

1067
00:56:54,470 --> 00:56:58,570
I will have very detailed plans on how everything should go.

1068
00:56:58,690 --> 00:57:02,210
And it will be very difficult for me as that does not happen.

1069
00:57:02,470 --> 00:57:06,630
And I got into life and anything I do is no reading.

1070
00:57:06,730 --> 00:57:08,070
There's no books.

1071
00:57:08,550 --> 00:57:12,870
There is no, no lists to go by.

1072
00:57:12,870 --> 00:57:15,250
It's kind of like, I feel it.

1073
00:57:15,290 --> 00:57:15,930
I do it.

1074
00:57:16,270 --> 00:57:17,010
It's life.

1075
00:57:17,250 --> 00:57:20,190
So that's why I think we're, we're together in this.

1076
00:57:20,770 --> 00:57:22,550
He's more like, I'm going to read about it.

1077
00:57:22,590 --> 00:57:23,570
I'm going to learn as much.

1078
00:57:23,650 --> 00:57:26,170
And then I'm going to still do the situation.

1079
00:57:26,270 --> 00:57:26,370
Go.

1080
00:57:26,470 --> 00:57:27,530
What the hell am I doing?

1081
00:57:27,770 --> 00:57:30,450
Where I just skipped the whole reading part and go, what the hell am I doing?

1082
00:57:30,450 --> 00:57:31,210
And figure it out.

1083
00:57:31,410 --> 00:57:33,290
One of my, like, it's like my motto.

1084
00:57:33,370 --> 00:57:34,270
I say it all the time.

1085
00:57:34,270 --> 00:57:36,290
And I think I got it from watching my dad.

1086
00:57:36,390 --> 00:57:41,490
My dad was like, before the internet, before any of that, he was one who would figure out how to do stuff.

1087
00:57:41,550 --> 00:57:41,790
Yeah.

1088
00:57:41,790 --> 00:57:43,870
And, uh, which is great.

1089
00:57:43,970 --> 00:57:44,670
It's just great.

1090
00:57:44,770 --> 00:57:45,150
It is.

1091
00:57:45,330 --> 00:57:48,370
And I always, I will always say like, how hard can it be?

1092
00:57:48,610 --> 00:57:51,430
That's like my, how hard are you going to be?

1093
00:57:51,430 --> 00:57:52,050
I'll figure it out.

1094
00:57:52,370 --> 00:57:55,890
This is the one word of the, the first time the voice in my head said hard.

1095
00:57:56,010 --> 00:57:56,370
Yes.

1096
00:57:56,450 --> 00:58:00,310
Like this is going to be, this is going to be more difficult than this.

1097
00:58:00,430 --> 00:58:01,210
It'll be okay.

1098
00:58:01,210 --> 00:58:03,910
You guys, you guys can help me along the way.

1099
00:58:04,070 --> 00:58:04,230
Yeah.

1100
00:58:04,230 --> 00:58:05,770
No, that's why we want to do this.

1101
00:58:05,910 --> 00:58:06,690
Even the stories.

1102
00:58:06,730 --> 00:58:12,070
Like I look forward to hearing every person is out there at whatever stage of parenting.

1103
00:58:12,310 --> 00:58:13,950
They're at is got a story.

1104
00:58:14,230 --> 00:58:15,770
They always say there's no manual to this, right?

1105
00:58:16,150 --> 00:58:21,070
Where you can read as much as you want, what your dogs are going to do and what you're how to have a cat now.

1106
00:58:21,150 --> 00:58:22,030
And then it happens.

1107
00:58:22,090 --> 00:58:23,410
You're like, what the hell is going on?

1108
00:58:24,070 --> 00:58:29,610
Literally the book, the dog book I'm reading right now is basically saying all the other stuff that you hear is wrong.

1109
00:58:29,710 --> 00:58:33,170
Like literally like everything I read in the first three is like, don't be stupid.

1110
00:58:33,610 --> 00:58:35,090
That's not, none of that's going to work.

1111
00:58:36,130 --> 00:58:36,950
It's a dog.

1112
00:58:37,410 --> 00:58:41,170
Every one of them says, bring home a blanket from the nursery.

1113
00:58:41,170 --> 00:58:42,710
And let the dog smell it.

1114
00:58:42,950 --> 00:58:44,570
And he's like, sure.

1115
00:58:44,730 --> 00:58:46,890
If you want to do that, you can, but it's not going to do anything.

1116
00:58:47,170 --> 00:58:49,430
That's why it's always, there's always another opinion.

1117
00:58:49,430 --> 00:58:53,690
But are you, are you, um, well, and are you worried about that aspect?

1118
00:58:54,010 --> 00:58:55,250
Like bring the baby home?

1119
00:58:55,430 --> 00:58:59,630
I'm not, I want to make it, I want to make it as easy for, it would be heartbreaking for me.

1120
00:59:00,010 --> 00:59:07,510
Look, if something God forbid went wrong where they weren't getting all like, obviously the dog's got, they got to go, the dog's got to go.

1121
00:59:07,510 --> 00:59:10,110
And that would be horrible.

1122
00:59:10,410 --> 00:59:13,230
Like I would be heartbroken, but that would be the way it would have to be.

1123
00:59:13,670 --> 00:59:15,250
So I don't want that to happen.

1124
00:59:15,250 --> 00:59:17,150
And it'll be a, it's going to be a big adjustment.

1125
00:59:17,350 --> 00:59:18,270
They might surprise you.

1126
00:59:18,430 --> 00:59:25,370
I think they're going to be, honestly, I think they're going to be fine when they, I think they know, I think they do have an instinct for that.

1127
00:59:25,450 --> 00:59:30,990
The difficulty is all of that stuff with dogs is about the pack mentality.

1128
00:59:31,070 --> 00:59:33,210
Who's the pack leader and who isn't.

1129
00:59:33,210 --> 00:59:40,690
And the challenge that we have is being the caring and kind and loving person that my wife is.

1130
00:59:41,430 --> 00:59:44,930
Kelly comes in like third or fourth in the pack order.

1131
00:59:45,170 --> 00:59:48,010
Like they, they listen to me when I'm not home.

1132
00:59:48,330 --> 00:59:58,510
They're on like high alert with every sound, every, the, the train goes by because they don't see her as being the boss.

1133
00:59:58,950 --> 01:00:02,950
We have to try to elevate her so that they understand their place.

1134
01:00:02,950 --> 01:00:07,530
Because then they relax and that's what you want, but it's worth making the effort.

1135
01:00:07,750 --> 01:00:08,210
So it's a smooth transition.

1136
01:00:08,210 --> 01:00:09,490
It's something you know you have to.

1137
01:00:09,630 --> 01:00:12,170
I want the kid to have a great relationship.

1138
01:00:12,290 --> 01:00:13,150
Like I want them to have fun.

1139
01:00:13,230 --> 01:00:15,450
But I never had, I didn't ever have a dog.

1140
01:00:15,710 --> 01:00:21,630
And it is a different, nothing will ever love you like a dog loves, loves you.

1141
01:00:22,270 --> 01:00:25,710
You can even say that about the kids because kids will, they will hate you at times.

1142
01:00:26,230 --> 01:00:28,230
Dogs are like, I love you all the time.

1143
01:00:28,250 --> 01:00:29,090
No matter what.

1144
01:00:29,390 --> 01:00:30,730
It's a different experience.

1145
01:00:30,730 --> 01:00:31,270
Yeah.

1146
01:00:31,470 --> 01:00:32,870
So we'll, we'll see how that goes.

1147
01:00:32,910 --> 01:00:36,090
But yeah, next week we'll be, we'll be caught up with my inner.

1148
01:00:36,190 --> 01:00:39,790
We will have some of our hopefully we'll have video.

1149
01:00:40,170 --> 01:00:42,890
And we're probably, we're, we're two episodes shelf.

1150
01:00:42,970 --> 01:00:44,430
So we got the first one already dropped.

1151
01:00:44,670 --> 01:00:46,590
First one just came out next week.

1152
01:00:46,690 --> 01:00:46,990
Yeah.

1153
01:00:47,050 --> 01:00:50,530
So this one, this one will be coming out two weeks from today.

1154
01:00:50,590 --> 01:00:50,810
Okay.

1155
01:00:50,810 --> 01:00:56,250
So, or for you now, you're listening to it right now.

1156
01:00:56,630 --> 01:00:57,130
Thank you.

1157
01:00:57,150 --> 01:00:58,930
If you stuck with us all the way to the end.

1158
01:00:58,930 --> 01:01:01,270
Thank you for spending the time with us again.

1159
01:01:01,470 --> 01:01:02,510
We hope you're enjoying it.

1160
01:01:02,630 --> 01:01:04,510
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1161
01:01:04,690 --> 01:01:09,950
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1162
01:01:10,050 --> 01:01:10,790
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1163
01:01:10,790 --> 01:01:11,630
Check it out.

1164
01:01:11,630 --> 01:01:13,970
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1165
01:01:14,030 --> 01:01:14,910
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1166
01:01:15,130 --> 01:01:22,850
We're on Spotify, Amazon, I heart radio, and then Apple podcast should be coming on.

1167
01:01:22,910 --> 01:01:24,490
Hopefully by the time you see this.

1168
01:01:24,770 --> 01:01:27,270
So the normal, all the normal podcast everywhere.

1169
01:01:27,270 --> 01:01:29,550
Social media podcasts I listen to.

1170
01:01:29,850 --> 01:01:31,850
So thank you again for spending the time.

1171
01:01:31,950 --> 01:01:36,890
Look forward to seeing some of your, your feedback and ideas and comments and stories.

1172
01:01:37,210 --> 01:01:38,170
We'll go from there.

1173
01:01:38,490 --> 01:01:38,730
Yeah.

1174
01:01:39,010 --> 01:01:39,590
Thank you.

1175
01:01:39,770 --> 01:01:40,070
Thank you.

1176
01:01:41,830 --> 01:01:46,090
Well, folks, that's another episode of the gray hair and daycare podcast in the books.

1177
01:01:46,630 --> 01:01:49,030
Thanks very much for tuning in and spending this time with us.

1178
01:01:49,330 --> 01:01:50,230
We hope it was fun.

1179
01:01:50,710 --> 01:01:55,090
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And now, if you'll excuse me, I'm going to bed.